When I lived in Sweden and Norway, I was always planning. Every day was planned with work and other activities. The life was very structured. When I left Scandinavia ten years ago, I got to meet another culture and type of lifestyle. The approach to planning and living was different. Life in general is just very different to me in this part of the world. So, this is about a day in my life. What I normally do, and how I manage to stay healthy while living a spontaneous lifestyle!
Since early age I learned to go to bed on time, and also wake up a certain time. During the weekend, Saturday and Sunday, you could sleep in. But normally we would be up early anyways. Just to enjoy and take advantage of the day.
When I lived in Qatar I worked a lot. I had to work, but I loved it! I had time off also, of course. Time that I took really good care of. I enjoyed going to the Spa, dining out or meeting with sisters for various occasions.
As I moved to Morocco however, my life changed dramatically as I got the opportunity to be a stay-at-home wife. And later a stay-at-home mum. So what about having a schedule then, when you don’t have any job or anything to be on time for?
Well, I still love to wake up early and I put the alarm every morning, at 4:45am. Some days I wake up at that time by myself, or even earlier. I do it completely out of free will, because I have important things to do!
Watching TV, staying up late and sleeping in, in the morning, aren’t the things that I prefer to do really. That makes me stressed like… It doesn’t give me any energy. And I know that I would have lost that time, which I could have used for something more beneficial.
To wake up early and read is what I love to do. Just enjoy the silence and breath deeply. The best time of the day is without any doubt the early mornings. It’s when I’m most clear in my mind, and when I can both think and write the best. And as we know, there is a blessing in the time after the early morning prayer.
I cannot be without breakfast, so I’m having my breakfast. It’s normally oats porridge with some fruits, skimmed milk and a boiled egg. With a mug of black coffee of course. I love coffee. I don’t drink it to become energized, but I drink it because I love the taste.
Then my little one normally wakes up, walking up to me by the desk and saying “read book” or “go there”. She loves reading, just like me. She also loves to be outdoor and be active. I believe that these two are foundational pieces for happiness in life. Reading and learning. Being active and getting fresh air.
During the day I work on my business. But I’m also spending time with my little one, seeing how she grows and thinking about my own personal goals. I’m cooking lunch and dinner and having a snack in between. Then I have to do the boring daily stuff like cleaning and taking care of the laundry as well. I’m still dreaming of a self-cleaning house and a robot to take care of these types of things. But no, I don’t want any house-maid to help me, because as much as that is practical, it’s just not anything that I’m feeling comfortable with.
Every day is a struggle, but a positive one, to grow and become a better person of myself. A better person that is more structured, has better time management and better focus. Honestly.
One thing that I’ve learned lately is to remove distractions.
An action I took in this regard was to switch off the phone at 6pm. That was extremely relieving, and difficult at the same time. I did it in order to be more mindful with my husband and my little one. It worked.
Every day is a positive struggle to prioritize the time to read Qur’aan. Every day is a sweaty struggle to press up the bar in my home gym or prioritize to workout, when there are so many things to do.
I read somewhere that if you have more than 3 priorities during a day, you don’t have any priorities. What are your priorities like normally during a day?
We all have 24 hours. It’s not about comparing, because we should only compete in good deeds, but let us be inspired by those that inspire us. For me, I’m happy with a day when I know that I’ve done my best.
I’m happy when I’ve used my time wisely, when I did good deeds, when I had a composed behavior, even if I was about to freak out, if I’ve learned something new and if I’ve acted upon my (new) knowledge.
Without being active and productive, I don’t feel alive.
I do feel alive when I’m being myself, when I feel strong from within and when I’m moving forward.
I do that by eating well, without being dramatic, and by working out regularly. This in combination with being a Muslimah, and believing in the Oneness of Allah SWT, the One who created you and me and everything that exists… is giving me so much thankfulness and strength that I will almost cry….
Remember your blessings. Remember that every passed second is a moment that never will come back.
Be useful. Take care of your time. Use your time wisely. Do what benefits you.
What if you are your strongest you, physically and mentally, what will you achieve? Imagine there are no road blocks. What will you achieve?
Go and get it. Believe in yourself!
That is what I’m working on daily. And with the thankfulness in my soul and thoughts in my mind I use to fall asleep before my little one, reading another book, just before 10pm.